The Earth is flat...or not, is not the question...

There was a time when "whether the Earth is flat or not" became the hottest topic of the town.

I, myself, was extremely intrigued by the statement the very first time I came across it.

Where almost everyone condemned those who think that the Earth was flat were morons, I was, on the contrary, a bit excited that finally, a genius might had emerged to prove how stupid we were.

The point is, when we bring up our children, we tell them what is right and what is wrong.

Many parents have the opinion that it takes too much time and effort to explain all the "whys" their children are throwing at them.

Hence, as a result, we do not educate and teach them why is something right or wrong.

Kids nowadays look at their phones in their hands all the time, even while waiting at the pedestrian crossing lights.

So when the light turns green and beeps, they just started crossing the road without checking their surroundings.

It doesn't really matter when a car stops at a green light, but you will not get away harmless if a car doesn't stop at a red light.

Obeying the laws and traffic rules is one thing, but looking after yourself is the ultimate goal here.

If my children were to tell me one day that the Earth is flat, I am very sure that I will ask them why would they think so? And if so, how can they prove that the Earth is flat?

As an educator, we should not ridicule young minds and limit their curious minds, belittling them.

The same goes to the fact that you don't teach your children how to succeed in their lives, by asking them to become doctors and lawyers.

You teach them to make the right decisions along their lives, and they can never go wrong, no matter what their professions are.

So, at the end of the day, does 1 + 1 = 2?

The answer doesn't have to be 2, if the person asking the question is a young child.

If you ask nicely or promise a lolly in exchange for the answer, who knows, you might learn a thing or two.

贵人，幸福，快乐

想要遇到贵人，就先把自己变成贵人；

想要幸福，就先把幸福带给周边的人；

想要快乐，就先把快乐留给其他人。

人，除了会辨善恶，也要知因果。

Making Mistakes Is How We Learn And Grow

 Everyone makes mistakes.

It has been like this since as far back as human history can be traced, and it will be like this going into the future.

Making mistakes is part of us.

We can't be perfect in an imperfect world.

You just have to choose between one of the two types of people:

those who learn from their mistakes, or

those who try to justify their mistakes.

Happiness

I was watching "The Middle" on TV and from one of the episodes about the small doll house dining table that Frankie bought, thinking that it was a real life size one, it struck me then and there, what happiness means.

Happiness is when you stop trying to look for happiness.

To put it in other words, there are greater powers at play out there or up there in the entire universe.

When everything goes against your way at times, you should just look down, see what you have in your hands, do what you need to do, and soldier on for the storm to pass.

There will always going to be high tides and low tides in anyone's life. When it is the low tides, don't fight it. You are just going to waste your time and energy. Instead, go along with it, and then come back harder when the high tides come along. You have to go with the flow and learn to ride on it.

It is not about persevering for your entire life. It is about learning your strength and weakness, and doing the right thing at the right time. 

And to put it even simpler, you need to learn to understand yourself.

I wish you well in your future, and I hope you can savour ever moment of your life, both ups and downs.

With Great Power, Comes Great Responsibilities

 

When you teach someone to build something, you would like them to have the ability to build that particular item when the old one breaks or get destroyed.

You want the skill to be passed on.

However, at the same time, when you have passed on the skill, that particular item no longer holds the same value to your protégé as compared to the time before they possess the knowledge to build the item.

The reason being, they can simply build another item for replacement easily.

It is not the case every time, but sometimes, the ability to create diminishes the value of possession.

When you earn enough money to not have to worry about the amount of money that you have, does money still hold the same value to you as before?

Money corrupts men.

This is one statement that I do not intend to disprove.

Earning money is easier than not spending the money that you have earned.

When you earn too much, just stop and have a look around yourself and lend a hand to the people around you.

If you think that there is no people around you that needed your help, I don't think you have really looked at all.

14/08/2020, 23:41

03/10/2021, 22:44

哭...

那天，你刚学了3D形状，在学校用粘土和牙签做了一个金字塔回来。

途中，我们绕过幼儿园接你的弟弟和妹妹。

你一看到他们，把书包和金字塔一丢，就冲上前和他们一起玩了。

玩了一阵，当我们离开之后，你才想起你的金字塔忘了拿了。

其实，当我刚看到那个金字塔的时候，它就已经撑不起来了，所以我就说不拿也罢。

但是你坚决要回去拿。

谁知，金字塔在那几分钟里面就被其他的小朋友给分解了。

你顿时并没有哭。

我还记得很清楚，你当时很明显的一边在看着你的金字塔，一边在处理你心头突然涌起的情绪。

悲伤，愤怒，不解，悔恨，估计所有的情绪都一一上门报到了。

终于，当我们走出幼儿园的范围之后，你哭了，淘淘大哭。

我可以从你的哭声感觉到，你顿时觉得这个世界好陌生，你根本都不了解它。

好好的一个金字塔放在桌上，又没有扔在地上，为何会有人想要把它给分解了。

你跟我说你在课堂上尝试想做一个正方立体，但是没有成功，所以老师就把它给扔了，不能带回家给我看。

那时，我才意识到，那个金字塔虽然不是那么完美，但是显然是你的所有，是你的骄傲，是你用来换取父母亲肯定的一个作品。

那不只是区区一个快要散架的金字塔。

你哭得泣不成声。

你一边哭，一边替你的金字塔打抱不平，一边埋怨这个世界，一边不停的问我为什么这，为什么那。

你很悲愤。

亲爱的儿子，我不能让时间重来。

我也回答不了你所有关于这个世界的问题。

我只能在你哭泣的时候，陪在你的身边聆听你的苦恼，然后听你淘淘大哭，然后再告诉你，你很棒，一切都会好起来的。

经过了今天，你会把明天驾驭得更好。

我爱你 ❤

童言无忌

小屁孩 ：爸爸，“隐形”是什么意思？
爸爸     ：就是“看不见”的意思。

过了一会儿，洗澡的时候……

爸爸     ：你洗好澡了吗？
小屁孩 ： 洗好了。
爸爸     ：你头后面的头发都洗了？
小屁孩 ： 还没有。
爸爸     ：那为什么不洗呢？
小屁孩 ：因为它们隐形了……

有时候，我只能坦然的承认，我的智商并没有很高……

"This is not a problem. This is just a challenge..."

Most times, when we get older, we think we got wiser, or so we thought.
I just want to share something that I learnt today, quite randomly and surprisingly.

"This is not a problem. This is just a challenge..."

Just like that, your problem miraculously disappears and you are left with a challenge.
Some people say that it is all in your head, and sometimes, I have to agree with them.
I believe that when you see a problem, not as a problem, it helps you find a solution easier.
Simply changing your perception to a matter does not actually help with the problem solving, but it will definitely boost your spirit and morale, and that I believe, will in return increase the likelihood for you to find a solution.

I guess you could also say that,
"Don't believe it when others tell you that it is impossible. You just have not found the way yet."

To all the naysayers, I want to tell you that, it is the people with the wildest imaginations that will build the world of tomorrow, and believe me, they will, simply because you won't.

Courage

don't dream for something that you cannot handle...and don't ask for something that you wont treasure...

when love doesn't turn out to be love

“我喜欢你，所以我是累了一点，可那对我绝不是伤害……”

“如果你真的爱过他的话，就感谢能给你这种感觉的他；那样的话，就不会像现在这样伤心难过了……”

~~unknown Korean drama~~

Horoscope for Virgo 6th Feb 2009

"......If you aren't taking care of yourself, you won't have much of anything to give anyone else."

if you don't know how to love yourself, theoretically speaking, you will not know how to love others...

{LOVE}

I guess, this is a topic to be discussed and debated with, regardless of your race, religion, sex, age, or generation, as long as you still believe in LOVE. I'm sure, there has been LOVE, since the first day man existed on the face of this planet. I mean, of course, when there is more than one man, only there is "the LOVE" that I am going to talk about. LOVE for mother nature is not within this topic's scope =)

Recently, I started to watch a Japanese drama. I have no idea how I got to the drama in the first place, but anyway, it's got 黑木瞳 in it, and I LOVE her ^^ The drama is called 同窗会. It is about having an affair with your classmate over 30 years ago. Well, I'm not going to talk about the drama itself. You can watch it if your mind is open enough. It is about "having affair" after all, and it is still considered to be morally wrong in our current society.

Ok, now, straight to the point. It made me wonder: many of us judge others when it comes to LOVE, and try to decide, which is the true LOVE. For example, parents will tell their young children not to get involved in any relationships during their high school, because that is not true LOVE they are experiencing. And friends will tell their friends, that if they guys/girls do so and so, that is not LOVE they are having. But I come to wonder, is it not possible to have LOVE　in high school? Is there a formula to tell a true LOVE from a fake one?

Let's have another example. Boy and girl falls in LOVE. But actually, boy is a playboy and walks away soon enough. Girl's heart breaks, and doubts if there has even been LOVE in between them. I would tell her, that there has been LOVE for her, but not the boy. My point is, whether LOVE exists or not does not depend on the outcome of a relationship. When others don't treasure your LOVE， it does not mean that you did not have LOVE. Do not doubt your own feelings, and do not let others influence your perception about LOVE. Even if your relationship fails over and over again, you should keep the pureness of LOVE within yourself, and not judge the future with the past.

A few of my friends, male friends in fact, are so seriously hurt by girls in the name of LOVE. One has totally changed his perception for LOVE, and started to figure out a formula for LOVE. And with this formula that he carries around in his head everywhere, he judges girls with that formula, even before they meet and speak to each other. And another my male friends, he just couldn't decide, whether the LOVE he had was real or not. If it is real, then why is he not together with the girl right now, as like the saying that says, true LOVE lasts and the couple lives happily ever after? If it is not, then what is the real LOVE, and what was it that he felt when he was together with the girl? He just could not get over it.

Some time ago, I was looking for a card for my friend. I came across a card with the best saying about LOVE. Basically, it says that, LOVE is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the harder you will get it; but when you are calm and still, it will come to rest on your shoulders. In my opinion, LOVE is everywhere, all around us. You do not need to catch nor pursue it, you just need to feel it with your heart. And when you feel the it is LOVE, don't let others say the otherwise. What happened to others does not apply to you, and remember the fact that while others might lie to you, your heart can never lie.

Sometimes, LOVE can be a bit blurry, and others might not treasure your LOVE as much as you treasure theirs. Nonetheless, if you choose to believe in LOVE in the first place, believe in it till the end. When you are calm and patient enough to see through your heart, LOVE will come to you eventually...

Law Abiding Citizen

I have to say, this is 100% the kind of movie that I love. I love it so much, that after so much time of inactive, I come to decide to post something on my blog again, hehe. If you haven't seen it yet, then go watch it, no matter how you get your sources from. It is also highly recommended for those who like V for Vendetta.

If you haven't watched it but still decided to read on, then spare me from the blame of spoiling the movie. So, why do I love it so much? Simple, because it describes and portraits my opinions and thoughts all these while. Ever since my SPM results(Malaysian high school exams) came out and I was not accepted into any local unis, my head has been embedded with this thought, of setting the justice right, one way or the other, and it doesn't matter if blood has to be shed.

What has the society today become? Just like Nick Rice said in the movie, while you are trying to change the system, you do not realize that the system has been changing you all the while. A little inch here and there ends up changing you to an entirely different person in the end. But do we realize that we are being changed? Or do we still think that we are trying to change the system and the world? If Clyde Shelton never shows up in reality, will Nick Rice in reality ever going to realize it, that he's been changed? Are we going to slumber along unless we get a slap right on our face?

Look at the bitchy mayor! What did she do, besides blaming others and firing them of their jobs at will if they don't get the jobs done? And the judge too. She deserves it well alright. "We feel for you..."That's what we normally hear in times of great sadness. But do you really feel what I feel? I was so hoping for Nick's family to be killed too. He was lucky that Clyde spared them their lives.

I am the only child in my family. And if I were not the only child to bear responsibilities to my parents, I would have tried something similiar to what Clyde did. The system is not working anymore. Before you will appreciate anything, you will have to lose it first. And I will be the one to take up the duty, to let the government appreciate its citizens. Because without the citizens, there will never be a government, nor a country. What I have lost, I would rather make them suffer the same lose, than let them make it up to me. Some things are just not the same anymore, no matter what you do. Just as Clyde's wife and daughter, they can never feel anymore...

Shinjuku Incident

i used to like watching movies. i really liked watching movies. i liked watching movies, because i get strength and enlightenment from them. it's just like a report or a book, there is always a theme or objective that the story line hangs on to. if you pay enough attention to the movie, it's easy to get the theme.

people used to say that all movies have happy endings and they are not realistic. hence, the criticisms. now, people are making it more and more realistic, until to a point that, sometimes, i feel like it is showing a part of my own life. the stupidity of some people, the naked truth behind the iron masks, the fact that bad guys live longer than good guys in a more luxurious way, they all form the elements of recent movies.

just like Shinjuku Incident, it is a pathetic movie. i don't need another damn movie to tell me how life sucks. i don't need another movie to tell me that the world is as cruel as it can be. i don't need another God damn movie to tell me that dying is easier than living, while i am still struggling to live each day through my life!

i got really emotional after the movie. killing your friend whom you call brother by slitting his throat??!! that's so sick. when is it allowed to have such screens on TV or cinemas? why is the movie not showing stuffs that promotes unity instead? yes, you can call that life, one that is really down to earth, but i have already got enough of that shit stuffs in my life!

oh, is this world leading to damnation? does people still believe in God as the master of their lives, or just as someone who created the universe like us playing Lego toys? i know i'm getting far away from the church, and astray from the righteous path. but i still believe that good deeds lead to salvation at the end of the world. in Disney terms, i still believe that the prince and the princess lived happily ever after. the end. what's wrong with that? ain't that is what we are supposed to believe in?

sigh. maybe i need to listen to more sermons from church services. these movies are making me aggressive.

PS: there are good morals presented in this film, but the bad ones just leave a far more deeper impression in my mind. just like Batman, the Dark Knight. nearly everyone preferred Joker over Batman. this is not the way they are supposed to be...in my opinion...

confused...again...

life is all about choosing, about making a choice, about preferring one from all the others that are available...but which one should we choose?

of all those people who come across our lives, who shall we keep to stay around us and who shall we just let to pass by? we don't get to choose our families, but we can choose our own circle of friends, and eventually, our life-long partner.

ever since i left my country, i have been dealing with this dilemma - who shall i befriend. i no longer get to hang around those people who are as "disgusting" as i am...while i was used to have the choice to choose my friends, now, i'm more likely to be the one who's being chosen from. with the dignity of an honorable knight, i bow down to no man nor woman who are less superior than i am. however, as poor as the church mice at the same time, i can no longer hold my head and nose up to stand up to whoever that steps on my tail. what i'm saying here is, my financial status has forbid me to choose my friends as freely as before. i begin to realize that, you "got" to hang around those people with the same status. friends are no longer those people who you can share your secrets with. friends are no longer the people who you trust on at hardest times. friends are no longer the people who are there to share both your sorrows and laughters. friends are just the people that you usually go out with...where is the intimacy and trust that i felt before for my past-friends?

i feel bad for the death of Michael Jackson. this incident led me to a thought. if i were the one to die, who will weep and cry on my funeral besides my family members? i don't mean that i want a very grand funeral and notify every one of my death. but, i just want to feel missed by the persons that i loved and cared so much before...

maybe being alone here on the "island" with the largest rock in the world, has made me realize that...it is time to mate...





i mean, it is time for me to start off my own career, get established, and get into the circle of life that i want to belong to. i will now make a list of the friends that would mourn for my death instead of just feel like losing another friend to hang out with...and i hope all of you will find your true friends...

Rebel Biker: Poem from Outlaw Bikers Forever

Rebel Biker: Poem from Outlaw Bikers Forever

回到过去

一盏黄黄旧旧的灯
时间在旁闷不吭声
寂寞下手毫无分寸
不懂得轻重之分
沉默支撑跃过陌生
静静看着凌晨黄昏
你的身影
失去平衡 慢慢下沉
黑暗已在空中盘旋
该往哪我看不见
也许爱在梦的另一端
无法存活在真实的空间
想回到过去
试着抱你在怀里
羞怯的脸带有一点稚气
想看你看的世界
想在你梦的画面
只要靠在一起就能感觉甜蜜
想回到过去
试着让故事继续
至少不再让你离我而去
分散时间的注意
这次会抱得更紧
这样挽留不知还来不来得及
想回到过去
思绪不断阻挡着回忆播放
盲目的追寻仍然空空荡荡
灰蒙蒙的夜晚睡意又不知躲到哪去
一转身孤单已躺在身旁
想回到过去
试着抱你在怀里
羞怯的脸带有一点稚气
想看你看的世界
想在你梦的画面
只要靠在一起就能感觉甜蜜
想回到过去
试着让故事继续
至少不再让你离我而去
分散时间的注意
这次会抱得更紧
这样挽留不知还来不来得及
想回到过去
沉默支撑跃过陌生
静静看着凌晨黄昏
失去平衡 慢慢下沉
你的身影
又回到过去

an old song from Jay Chow. love it...

maybe because that the future is always unpredictable, we have a perception that the past has always been better. isn't that true? when we are faced with difficulties and trials, we always turn our head to look back into our past, and admire the times when we don't have to go through the problems at hand. the more we do this, the less courage we have to probe into the unknown future.

starting from now on, i will still turn around and have a look at the memorable times every now and then, but i will look at it with great anticipation that i will create something better along the path ahead... the past will be the base of what i will create tomorrow, and it will provide me courage to enter into the later stages of my life. i will make everything that i experienced worthful by going through better experiences. if tomorrow is not better, then i will make it better myself!

Policemen are cool...

i can't recall exactly the time, but there had been an incident in UK, where a policemen pushed an old man down, and rumors said that the old man actually died from a heart attack. then, there is another footage which shows a female protester who got hit in the thigh because she was only protesting.

later, people made a huge deal out of these cases. i thought, and i still think, is that necessary? first of all, i don't think the old man died from the fall over. God knows how he died, but i'm pretty sure that rumors had it all gotten wrong. there were people protesting in your area, around you physically, were you still going out for a stroll? or just to see if someone else would get hurt, instead of you? it's like you're actually going to the seaside to witness a tsunami coming towards you! did you think that you had lived long enough? if yes, then you can just bury yourself up. saves us the trouble and it's good for environment. if not, then what the hell are you doing in the middle of a chaotic situation?

and for the female protester, she even sold her story to the newspaper agency for quite a sum of money. after that, she even got interviewed for that. for goodness sake, she is a PROTESTER! do you know that sometimes, protesters can get as dangerous as terrorists? do you need to wait for them to hurt you first, only then you are allowed to defend yourself? so if you can't see if she is armed or not, you still have to go through the procedure to check her whole body first, in the middle of a protest? did you guys see how aggressive she looked in the footage?

i don't understand the world nowadays anymore. those policemen are trying their best to withhold a protesting crowd. anyone of them might get hurt by the protesters. a policeman got hurt during his duty VS a protester got hurt in her protest. who do you think deserves to be hurt more? pleas stop thinking if you are the protester that got hit. someone please think in the position of the policeman. in the protest, you were outnumbered, and surrounded by furiously excited protesters. are you going to ask them to settle down, with PLEASE?

and let's say, if the policeman does got hurt by the female protester, is he going to show the world the footage that he was allegedly assaulted by a anonymous female protester which is recorded by his colleague who just happen to record the event during their duties? he might got disabled, or even killed, leaving his old parents, wife, kids on their own since then. is the world going to be as pitiful on the victims as compared to the assaulted female protester? is the news agency going to buy his story of bravery and is his family members going to get interviewed on tv? probably, but definitely not as probable as the female protester who got all the fame and cash.

honestly, think it through. the policeman ended up getting sacked. do you still want to be a policeman after you read this news? a research also shows that on average in Australia, there are more policemen getting assaulted on TGI Friday nights compared to earlier times. with their salary, do you think you are going to become a policeman with all the risks? even if you are given the best insurance policy included in your work, many of us still wounldn't choose to become a policeman. we have our reasons to do so, that's not difficult to understand at all. but have you actually thought of those who undertook all the risks to protect the neighborhood from protesters and criminals and etc who would endanger our normal, daily lives?

CHERISH! before your adrenaline rushes up to your head again, take a deep breath and think carefully, who are the trouble makers? who are protecting you? who are doing the jobs that you don't like to do? i don't want to end up carrying a gun with me to protect myself here in Australia, because all the policemen resigned their jobs as their jobs are just too tough to handle. i hope the day that you wish the policeman will be back on the streets, holding off the angry mob won't come...

when love doesn't turn out to be love eventually...

“我喜欢你，所以我是累了一点，可那对我绝不是伤害……”

“如果你真的爱过他的话，就感谢能给你这种感觉的他；那样的话，就不会像现在这样伤心难过了……”

~~unknown Korean drama~~

a puppet or a puppeteer

have you ever wondered if you are a puppet or a puppeteer in this world? i can still recall that one of my friends told me that, in this world, if you can't influence others, then you will be influenced by others. in other words, either you are a puppet or you are a puppeteer.

is it possible then for us to be just ourselves? yes, i know that there are other people's lives which will be affected by our decisions, but then, if we take into all the considerations, is there still a part of our decisions that are made for us, ourselves?

sigh, life is just so difficult with decisions that have to be made every day. and what makes it worse is that our decisions will affect those that are close to us. i'm sure we can never satisfy both sides. one side has to give in to the other side. but, which side should give in first? how many times do we have to give in before the other side gives in? if you have the answers to these questions, i'm sure you have been living a peaceful life. cheers to you~~~