{LOVE}

I guess, this is a topic to be discussed and debated with, regardless of your race, religion, sex, age, or generation, as long as you still believe in LOVE. I'm sure, there has been LOVE, since the first day man existed on the face of this planet. I mean, of course, when there is more than one man, only there is "the LOVE" that I am going to talk about. LOVE for mother nature is not within this topic's scope =)

Recently, I started to watch a Japanese drama. I have no idea how I got to the drama in the first place, but anyway, it's got 黑木瞳 in it, and I LOVE her ^^ The drama is called 同窗会. It is about having an affair with your classmate over 30 years ago. Well, I'm not going to talk about the drama itself. You can watch it if your mind is open enough. It is about "having affair" after all, and it is still considered to be morally wrong in our current society.

Ok, now, straight to the point. It made me wonder: many of us judge others when it comes to LOVE, and try to decide, which is the true LOVE. For example, parents will tell their young children not to get involved in any relationships during their high school, because that is not true LOVE they are experiencing. And friends will tell their friends, that if they guys/girls do so and so, that is not LOVE they are having. But I come to wonder, is it not possible to have LOVE　in high school? Is there a formula to tell a true LOVE from a fake one?

Let's have another example. Boy and girl falls in LOVE. But actually, boy is a playboy and walks away soon enough. Girl's heart breaks, and doubts if there has even been LOVE in between them. I would tell her, that there has been LOVE for her, but not the boy. My point is, whether LOVE exists or not does not depend on the outcome of a relationship. When others don't treasure your LOVE， it does not mean that you did not have LOVE. Do not doubt your own feelings, and do not let others influence your perception about LOVE. Even if your relationship fails over and over again, you should keep the pureness of LOVE within yourself, and not judge the future with the past.

A few of my friends, male friends in fact, are so seriously hurt by girls in the name of LOVE. One has totally changed his perception for LOVE, and started to figure out a formula for LOVE. And with this formula that he carries around in his head everywhere, he judges girls with that formula, even before they meet and speak to each other. And another my male friends, he just couldn't decide, whether the LOVE he had was real or not. If it is real, then why is he not together with the girl right now, as like the saying that says, true LOVE lasts and the couple lives happily ever after? If it is not, then what is the real LOVE, and what was it that he felt when he was together with the girl? He just could not get over it.

Some time ago, I was looking for a card for my friend. I came across a card with the best saying about LOVE. Basically, it says that, LOVE is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the harder you will get it; but when you are calm and still, it will come to rest on your shoulders. In my opinion, LOVE is everywhere, all around us. You do not need to catch nor pursue it, you just need to feel it with your heart. And when you feel the it is LOVE, don't let others say the otherwise. What happened to others does not apply to you, and remember the fact that while others might lie to you, your heart can never lie.

Sometimes, LOVE can be a bit blurry, and others might not treasure your LOVE as much as you treasure theirs. Nonetheless, if you choose to believe in LOVE in the first place, believe in it till the end. When you are calm and patient enough to see through your heart, LOVE will come to you eventually...